Part II - THE ILLUSION OF CONTROL

Free Will vs. The Automaton

A weary king once received a terrifying prophecy: his newborn son, it was said, would grow up to murder him and marry the queen.

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The Man Who Could Not Escape His Fate

A weary king once received a terrifying prophecy: his newborn son, it was said, would grow up to murder him and marry the queen. In fear and revulsion, the king sealed the infant’s fate in a grim way—ordering the baby killed and thus hoping to cheat destiny itself. The child, however, was secretly spared by a compassionate servant and raised far away, ignorant of his royal origins. Years later, that child, now a young man named Oedipus, heard a similar prophecy about himself: that he would kill his father and wed his mother. Horrified, Oedipus vowed never to let that happen. Believing the king and queen who raised him were his true parents, he fled their home to protect them, determined to outsmart fate with his free will.

Yet on the road far from home, destiny met Oedipus in disguise. He crossed paths with a stranger in a chariot at a crossroads. A heated argument erupted over who had the right of way, and in a rash moment of anger, Oedipus slew the stranger. Only later would he learn that this stranger was his biological father—the very king who had tried to thwart fate years before.

Continuing his journey, Oedipus eventually arrived in a foreign city in mourning, its king recently killed. By virtue of his wit and bravery (and unaware of his own lineage), Oedipus saved the city from a monstrous Sphinx and was rewarded with the throne. He married the widowed queen, ruling wisely for years, until the horrific truth unraveled: the queen he married was his mother. The prophecy had come to pass in every detail, despite all his efforts to avoid it.

The tale of Oedipus from Greek mythology is a profound exploration of free will versus fate. Oedipus exercised what agency he thought he had—he made conscious choices to escape his predicted destiny—yet every choice unwittingly led him closer to it. It’s as if his very attempts to assert free will were woven into the fabric of fate. Stories like this prompt an unsettling question: how much control do we truly have over our lives? Are we authors of our destiny or actors following a script we cannot see? The tension between being a free agent and being an automaton acting out pre - written lines has captivated human thought for millennia. As we ponder Oedipus’s predicament, we might also reflect on our own lives—do we choose our path freely, or do unseen forces (biology, upbringing, chance) chart the course?

Habits, Instincts, and Neural Scripts

Modern neuroscience has added new layers to the ancient debate about free will by revealing just how much of our decision - making runs on autopilot beneath our awareness. On the surface, it feels like we consciously choose our actions: you decide to pick up a pen and it happens. But delve into the brain’s inner workings, and the story grows more complex.

In a famous experiment by neuroscientist Benjamin Libet, participants were asked to flex their fingers at a moment of their choosing while watching a clock - like timer. They reported the moment they felt the conscious intention to move. Remarkably, Libet found that the brain’s motor cortex showed a buildup of activity (a “readiness potential”) before the person felt they had decided to act—often by a fraction of a second. In other words, the brain seemed to initiate the action before the mind consciously chose it. This finding raised eyebrows and philosophical questions: is the conscious will simply catching up to a decision the brain has already started to implement? Some argue that perhaps what we call a conscious decision is more like a neural notification of something that’s already underway.

Beyond such experiments, consider our daily routines. How often have you arrived home from work with only a hazy memory of the drive, as if part of you was on autopilot while your mind wandered? When you tie your shoelaces, you likely don’t consciously recall each step of the knot - tying procedure; your hands just do it. The truth is, our brains constantly form habits and neural scripts that allow us to perform actions automatically. This automation is incredibly useful—imagine if you had to actively think through every single step of brushing your teeth each morning, life would be exhausting. From walking to typing to chopping vegetables, once a sequence of actions is learned, the brain conserves energy by relegating it to subconscious control. The basal ganglia, a region deep in the brain, is instrumental in storing these habit loops. It’s as though we have an “automaton” mode that can be triggered by context: get in the car, and the driving script kicks in; see a toothbrush, and the cleaning routine runs.

Not only motor actions, but even many decisions are made on a subconscious level. Our brains process vast amounts of sensory input and memory behind the scenes, and often intuitions or gut feelings guide us before our rational mind catches up. Studies using brain scanners have shown that by analyzing brain activity, researchers can sometimes predict which choice a person will make a few seconds before the person consciously makes that choice. While these studies typically involve simple decisions (like pressing one button or another), they suggest that a great deal of neural decision processing happens under the hood. By the time we become aware of wanting something or leaning toward an option, our neural circuits have already done substantial work.

Emotion plays a crucial role in this hidden decision - making. Neuroscientist Antonio Damasio famously studied patients with brain injuries that impaired their emotional processing. They found that even though these individuals could reason logically about choices, they struggled horribly to make decisions in real life. Lacking the subtle emotional “push” or signal of preference, they would endlessly weigh pros and cons without ever settling even trivial matters. This implies that our emotional brain (centered in regions like the limbic system) is constantly tagging options with feelings—good, bad, safe, risky—steering our choices effortlessly. Most of this happens without conscious deliberation; you simply feel drawn to one option and not the other. It’s only after the fact that we often concoct a logical narrative for why we chose as we did, giving the comforting illusion that we decided rationally from scratch.

Our sense of free will can also be tricked by external influences that slip under our radar. Psychologists have demonstrated phenomena like priming, where subtle cues can shape behavior without conscious awareness. In one experiment, people who were incidentally exposed to words related to old age (like “gray,” “Florida,” “bingo”) walked more slowly afterward, presumably because their subconscious associated those words with elderly behavior. In another, simply arranging a room with briefcase and boardroom - like items made participants in a study more competitive in a negotiation task (without them realizing the decor had any effect). These examples show that the environment can activate certain schemas or mental scripts in us automatically. Much of what we do in any given day—what we eat, how we respond to colleagues, whether we check our phone when it buzzes—is driven by unconscious routines responding to cues around us, rather than a sovereign mind making each decision independently.

None of this negates the existence of choice, but it reframes it: our “choices” often emerge from a complex web of neural processes, many of which operate beneath the surface. The neuroscience of choice reveals humans as deeply habitual creatures. Our brains are prediction machines, operating as much on expectation and learned behavior as on spur - of - the - moment volition. Recognizing the power of these automatic processes can be humbling—how many of your daily actions are truly decided by the conscious “you,” and how many are simply carried out by your mental autopilot? However, this knowledge is also empowering: by understanding the mechanisms of our automation, we might learn to intervene, reshape habits, and make more of our actions mindful.

The Philosophy of Free Will: Do We Choose, or Only Believe We Do?

While neuroscience probes the machinery of decision - making, philosophers have long grappled with the question of whether free will is real, an illusion, or something in between. It’s a debate entangled with issues of morality, responsibility, and human nature. Let’s explore a few perspectives from great thinkers, which offer strikingly different takes on whether (and how) we possess freedom of will.

The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche was skeptical of the traditional notion of free will. He saw the concept as tangled up in religious and moral judgments. Nietzsche famously suggested that free will was an invention of theologians—used to justify punishing sinners by claiming they freely chose their evil deeds. He thought this was a misguided way to view human behavior. Instead, Nietzsche emphasized the powerful influence of instincts and drives within us, many of which we inherit or absorb unconsciously. He didn’t believe we are simply puppets with no will at all, but he challenged the idea of an absolutely free, uncaused will. In Nietzsche’s view, claiming total free will ignores the myriad factors that shape us (our biology, our upbringing, our culture). Yet, he also celebrated the idea of embracing one’s life fully (what he called amor fati, love of fate) and crafting meaning for oneself. Rather than worrying about metaphysical free will, Nietzsche would have us focus on self - overcoming—recognizing our drives and channeling them creatively, almost as if we can choose how to ride the horses of our instincts, even if we didn’t choose to have those horses in the first place.

A generation before Nietzsche, Arthur Schopenhauer offered a bleak but incisive view: “Man can do what he wills, but he cannot will what he wills.” By this, Schopenhauer meant that while we can act according to our desires, we don’t get to choose those underlying desires or the fundamental character that gives rise to them. In his philosophy, each of us has an innate character and is driven by the great cosmic force he calls “Will,” which shows itself in us as our desires and impulses. When you make a choice, say to help a stranger, you do so because you have a compassionate character and you wanted to help. You did what you willed (you helped), but you did not freely choose to be the kind of person who wants to help—that was shaped by your nature and life experiences. To Schopenhauer, free will in the absolute sense was an illusion; everything including human behavior followed inevitably from the combination of one’s inner nature and external circumstances. We are, in a sense, actors playing out our roles, and if we were wise enough to know every facet of a person and the situation, we could predict what that person would do with near certainty. Yet Schopenhauer wasn’t dismissing the importance of our will—he simply located its source deeper, beyond conscious control.

On the other side of the debate, thinkers like William James, the American psychologist - philosopher, took a pragmatic approach. James lived in a time when science was leaning heavily toward determinism—the idea that all events, including human actions, are determined by prior causes. As a young man, James found this view emotionally paralyzing; if everything is predetermined, he wondered, why do anything or strive for good? He recounts that he was tormented by a kind of existential despair until he decided, in a rather poetic turn, that his “first act of free will” would be to believe in free will. By that he meant he chose to act as if his choices and efforts truly mattered. James went on to argue that when faced with certain unprovable questions (like free will), we have the right to believe in whichever answer is more life - affirming and useful, so long as it’s not contradicted by evidence. For him, believing in free will encouraged personal responsibility and purposeful action, whereas a fatalistic belief in strict determinism might sap one’s vitality. He didn’t claim this as a proof of free will, but as a deliberate stance to guide one’s life. James also explored how habits and effort of attention can shape our willpower, implying that even if we aren’t utterly free, we have some ability to train and direct our will.

There are many other philosophical views: determinists like the Stoics of ancient Greece and Rome, who believed everything unfolds according to divine Logos or natural law; compatibilists like David Hume or more modern philosophers, who argue that free will can exist even in a deterministic universe if we define it as acting according to our internal motivations without external coercion; and existentialists like Jean - Paul Sartre, who insisted that whether or not we have free will in a scientific sense, we are condemned to continually make choices and thereby create ourselves, which is both our burden and our glory. Sartre acknowledged that we are thrown into circumstances we didn’t choose (our family, our societal conditions), but within those, we must choose our attitude and actions, and in doing so, we bear full responsibility for who we become.

What all these perspectives highlight is that “free will” can mean different things. Are we asking if we could have done otherwise in an absolute sense? Or are we asking if our actions are meaningfully our own? Nietzsche and Schopenhauer might say our will is not free from nature, but it’s our own nature. James and Sartre might say even if the deck is stacked by biology and environment, what matters is that we experience choice and must make choices, so we’d best do so thoughtfully. The debate is far from merely academic; it touches how we assign responsibility (can someone truly be blamed for wrongdoing if their choices were shaped by factors beyond their control?), how we motivate ourselves (do we believe effort matters?), and how we find meaning (are we authors or characters?).

In everyday life, most of us operate under the working assumption that we do have free will. We feel that we choose to get out of bed, choose what career to pursue, choose between right and wrong. But as we’ve seen with Oedipus and with modern science, there’s an undercurrent of doubt: maybe those choices were influenced or even orchestrated by forces we didn’t see. The philosophical discussions encourage us not necessarily to solve the riddle definitively, but to reflect on the nature of our agency. That very reflection can enrich how we live, making us more mindful of the many influences on our decisions and more compassionate about the human condition.

The Pull of Conditioning and Unconscious Drives

Philosophy gives us frameworks to think about free will abstractly, and neuroscience shows the mechanics of decision - making, but what about our day - to - day behavior? Psychology and the behavioral sciences provide insight into how much of what we do is shaped by conditioning, environment, and unconscious drives, often without us realizing it.

Think about how we develop from childhood. A child is rewarded with smiles and praise for certain behaviors, scolded or corrected for others. Over time, these responses teach the child which actions are acceptable or bring pleasure. This is the essence of conditioning. The famous behaviorist B.F. Skinner demonstrated how animals (and by extension, humans) could be trained into habits by systematically providing rewards or punishments. We might like to believe as adults that we’ve outgrown such influences, but many of our persistent habits were forged in these early learned associations. Perhaps you were always given a sweet treat to cheer you up when you were sad, and now, without thinking, you reach for chocolate when feeling down—an action driven by childhood conditioning, not a fresh decision in the moment.

Our environment continues to cue our behaviors powerfully. Psychologists talk about triggering stimuli—contexts or sensations that automatically provoke certain responses because they’ve been linked in our brains. The smell of popcorn might trigger an impulse to snack. The ding of a smartphone instantly draws your hand to pick it up, even if you just checked it moments ago. We often act on these triggers without stopping to consciously decide, “Yes, I shall eat popcorn now” or “I will check my phone now.” We simply find ourselves doing it. In that sense, part of us behaves like an automaton responding to a program. Retail stores and tech companies are well aware of these tendencies and design environments (whether the layout of a grocery store or the notification design of an app) to exploit our automatic responses.

Social conditioning is another powerful force. From a young age, we learn behaviors by observing others and imitating them—what psychologists call social learning. We internalize norms of our culture, often so deeply that they feel like our own natural preferences. You might “choose” to dress a certain way or greet people with a handshake, but these choices are heavily guided by what you’ve absorbed from those around you. In new social settings, we automatically look for cues on how to behave and often follow along without explicit instruction—laughing when others laugh, standing in line where others line up, lowering our voice in a quiet library. This is usually not because someone consciously decides in each moment “I will conform now,” but because our brains are wired to fit in with the group for safety and cohesion. The famous Asch conformity experiments showed that people would even deny the evidence of their own eyes and give an obviously incorrect answer about line lengths if everyone else in the room (who were actors in on the experiment) unanimously gave that wrong answer first. The pull to go along with the group consensus can override the individual’s direct perception.

Then there are the deeper unconscious drives and motivations that psychoanalytic thinkers like Sigmund Freud or Carl Jung explored. Freud proposed that a large part of our psyche—the Id—houses primitive desires and feelings (like aggression or sexual impulses) that are kept out of awareness by the Ego and Superego (our conscious self and moral conscience). While Freud’s specific model may or may not be exactly right, it’s clear that not all our motivations are transparent to us. You might find yourself acting irritable and picking a fight with a partner, thinking it’s about one thing, when perhaps unconsciously you are anxious they might leave you and you’re seeking reassurance. Or someone might work themselves to the bone in their career, telling themselves it’s for financial security, while unconsciously they might be seeking approval from a parent or trying to outdo a sibling. Our actions can be like the tip of an iceberg, with a massive unseen foundation of psychological factors supporting them. We often “decide” to do something without fully understanding why because the true reasons can be hidden in that unconscious layer.

Additionally, our brains use mental shortcuts, known as heuristics, to quickly decide things when detailed analysis is too slow. For example, the availability heuristic makes us judge the likelihood of events by how easily examples come to mind. After watching news of airplane accidents, someone might choose to drive instead of fly, feeling it’s safer—because the vivid crash images are easily available in memory—despite statistics showing driving is actually riskier. Here the “choice” is influenced by a cognitive shortcut rather than careful deliberation. Similarly, the status quo bias leads people to stick with default options, not because they actively chose them but because inertia and the comfort of familiarity exert an unconscious pull.

Even our moods and physiological states condition our choices. When we are hungry (a state sometimes jokingly called “hangry” when it leads to irritability), we might impulsively snap at someone or make an indulgent purchase we wouldn’t when full. When tired, we lean toward easy options and habits rather than thoughtful decisions, contributing to the phenomenon of decision fatigue. Decision fatigue is the observed decline in quality of decisions after a long session of decision - making—essentially, our willpower and deliberative energy get depleted, and we start defaulting to whatever is simplest (often saying “no” to new proposals or avoiding making a choice at all). It’s another example of how our capacity to exercise will can be undermined by mental and bodily states.

All these patterns depict humans as, in large part, creatures of habit and context. We have scripts for how to behave at work versus at home, habits for how we start our day, tendencies in how we react emotionally that echo our past. We often only realize we were on autopilot after the fact—if at all. However, just as with the neuroscience perspective, recognizing our conditioned and unconscious patterns can empower us. It allows us to see those scripts in action and, if we choose, to start rewriting them. The automaton in us is not all there is; it coexists with the conscious self that can intervene, but only if that self wakes up to the pattern.

Key Takeaways & Applications: Reclaiming Agency in a Habit - Driven World

Cultivate Self - Awareness: The first step to exercising free will (whatever its limits) is to become aware of your own patterns. Practices like meditation or reflective journaling can help you notice what often goes unseen—your automatic reactions, the subtle cues that trigger you, and the underlying feelings driving your choices. By identifying these, you create a mental “space” in which a more conscious choice becomes possible.

Create a Pause Between Impulse and Action: Whenever you feel a strong urge to do something—be it checking your phone for the tenth time in an hour or lashing out in anger—practice pausing. Take a breath and count to five. This short - circuits the automatic loop and gives your conscious mind a moment to catch up. In that pause, ask yourself, “Is this what I really want to do, or am I just reacting?” This technique, over time, can weaken the grip of habits and allow purposeful decisions.

Audit Your Habits and Environment: Take inventory of recurring behaviors in your life and the contexts that surround them. Do you always snack late at night in front of the TV? Do you find it hard to focus with constant email notifications? By identifying these links, you can start to re - engineer your environment to support more conscious behavior. Maybe you remove the candy bowl from your desk so you won’t grab sweets without thinking, or set specific times to check email so it doesn’t hijack your attention. Small changes in environment can lead to big changes in behavior, essentially “programming” your automaton in beneficial ways.

Deliberate Practice of Decision - Making: Strengthen your decision - making muscle by intentionally engaging in choices. For example, rather than always ordering “the usual” at a restaurant, sometimes pause and really consider what you want to try today. For larger decisions, try writing down the reasons for and against each option to engage conscious deliberation. The point is not to overthink every little thing, but to remind yourself that you can choose differently. It combats the complacency of always going with the default.

Challenge Your Comfort Zone: Our automaton self loves comfort and familiarity—it’s where habits thrive. By occasionally doing something that pushes you out of routine (taking a different route home, conversing with someone who has a very different background, learning a new skill as a beginner), you shake up the mind’s inertia. New experiences force you to be present and make active choices, rekindling your sense of volition. They also expand your repertoire of behaviors so you have more options to choose from, rather than a single preset path.

Reflect on Past “Decisions” to Learn: Think back on some significant choices or recurring behaviors in your life. Ask: “Why did I choose that? What factors were at play?” Be honest if a choice wasn’t as freely made as you once thought—perhaps peer pressure guided your career choice more than passion, or fear of change kept you in a certain city. This isn’t to dwell in regret, but to understand yourself. Such reflection can illuminate what conditions tend to sway you, so you can be more vigilant or proactive in similar future situations.

Empower Your Sense of Agency with Small Wins: If you ever feel discouraged—as if your life is just running on rails laid down by genetics and society—start with small acts of agency to rebuild confidence. This could be setting a minor goal like waking up 15 minutes earlier to read, and following through. Or deciding to break a small habit, like not biting your nails for one day. When you successfully make and execute a conscious choice, no matter how small, you reinforce the narrative that you can direct your life. These small wins add up, creating a foundation of self - efficacy that helps with bigger challenges.

Embrace a “Growth” Mindset Over a Fixed Script: Psychologist Carol Dweck’s research on mindsets reveals that seeing traits and abilities as malleable (a growth mindset) rather than fixed can change how people approach life. Applying this to free will: if you view your personality and behavior as flexible and improvable, you’re more likely to put in effort to change habits and make conscious choices. If you think “This is just how I am,” that belief itself becomes a self - fulfilling script. Adopt the perspective that you are an evolving being; your present automatic tendencies are not your destiny. This outlook naturally encourages taking initiative to grow and change.

Accept What You Can’t Control, Focus on What You Can: Even if free will has its limits, agonizing over those limits can lead to paralysis. A more productive approach is akin to the Stoic philosophy: recognize what is not in your control (perhaps you can’t change your past or your basic temperament easily) and then deeply commit to what is in your control (your effort, your attitudes, your response to situations). You may not be free to choose every circumstance, but you are free to choose how you interpret and respond to circumstances. By focusing energy on that space of freedom, however small it is, you expand it. Over time, you’ll likely find your sphere of conscious influence grows.

Integrate the Automaton and the Willful Self: Finally, realize that you don’t have to wage war against your automatic self. It’s not “bad” that we have routines and unconscious processes—without them life would be chaotic. The goal is not to eliminate habit but to guide it. Think of your conscious self as a wise manager and your subconscious as a powerful employee. The manager sets intentions and trains the employee through repetition and feedback. Once trained, the employee can carry out tasks reliably, freeing the manager for other work. In life, this means use your willpower strategically: establish healthy habits and positive routines when you have the focus, so that later the “autopilot” will take care of them. In this harmony, free will and automation cooperate. You get to shape the automation to serve your values, which is a profound exercise of freedom in itself.

Reclaiming agency is a gradual process, a kind of ongoing negotiation between the reactive parts of our nature and our higher aspirations. We may never be completely free from influence or conditioning—indeed, that’s part of being human—but we can steadily widen the scope of our awareness and intentional action. In doing so, we transform from passive passengers into active drivers of our lives, steering with purpose even on a road full of twists and unseen turns.

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